Parenting: A Complex and Evolving Role

by Edye Katz, TCEE’s Learning Specialist

Parenting is inherently challenging. Regardless of the number of children or prior experience you have, each child presents unique needs. Parents often find it difficult to disconnect from their responsibilities. Common concerns include: Is my child on track? Do they have friends? Are they growing socially and emotionally? One of the most pressing areas is Social Emotional Development (SED), which encompasses understanding emotions, regulating behavior, and building relationships. These skills require time, practice, and intentional learning, both at school and at home. 

Social Emotional Learning (SEL) in Schools 

Schools increasingly integrate SEL into their curriculum. According to the Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning (CASEL), SEL includes five core competencies: 

• Self-Awareness – Understanding one’s emotions, thoughts, and values. 

• Self-Management – Regulating emotions and behaviors to achieve goals. 

• Social Awareness – Empathizing with others and interpreting social cues. 

• Relationship Skills – Communicating effectively and resolving conflicts. 

• Responsible Decision-Making – Making ethical, constructive choices. 

SEL for Parents 

Parents are lifelong learners, often placing their children’s needs above their own. Yet, practicing SEL as adults is essential for personal growth and effective parenting. Managing emotions, especially during stressful moments, requires self-awareness and reflection. As our child’s first teachers, we are continually learning about ourselves and others. 

To be the best parents and our best versions of ourselves, we also need to focus on our own self-care and growth. The highs and lows of parenting require our ability to manage a wide range of emotions. There are times when I ask myself, “Why did I react that way?” To manage emotions effectively, we must understand how we feel and how our thoughts influence our behavior. 

According to The Child Mind Institute, SEL at home helps parents navigate emotional challenges and improve their responses. 

Practical SEL Strategies for Home 

• Pause – Take a moment to reflect before reacting. The fast pace of digital life can overwhelm us; slowing down helps us regain control. 

• Self-Soothing – Use sensory tools like music, exercise, or physical affection to reduce stress. 

• Self-Compassion – Avoid self-blame; recognize that mistakes are part of growth. 

• Be Present – Minimize distractions and engage meaningfully with family. 

• Acts of Kindness – Foster well-being through generosity. 

• Support, Don’t Hover – Allow children space to learn from mistakes. 

• Model Emotional Literacy – Verbally express emotions and interpret social cues. 

 For additional resources or support, please don’t hesitate to contact me or your child’s teacher. Together, we can foster meaningful growth in both children and parents. 

Edye Katz 

Learning Specialist